How to bring others on board with your new gentle parenting regime!

 

Question: "How can I get my husband on board with my parenting style?"

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Who here can relate to this parent's question? Have you ever found yourself wishing you could change your spouse/partner/in-laws etc? Do you want to bring others "on board" with your gentle parenting?

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I am confident that we ALL feel something similar to this many times throughout our lives. We all, at some point, experience wanting to change someone else.

Maybe we think it would make parenting easier or maybe we believe that it benefits the children. Either way, I hear this question often.

I want to share what I tell those parents asking me how to bring their spouses on board following a session with me, or attending one of my classes.

 

#1 No one wants to "be changed." Our brains naturally resist being controlled or manipulated. So, I want to begin by encouraging anyone reading this to not go into the discussion with your partner/spouse/in-law, whomever, with the intention to change them.

I'm sure we can all remember a time when someone (or even a group of people) sat us down to try to "change" us... Perhaps you can recall how it felt and how you resisted it. I know I can!

Being around people that ACCEPT us is empowering. Instead of beginning the conversation with your significant other with the intention to change, I want to consider beginning with the intention to accept.

Accept that there are different parenting approaches and accept that people do the best they can with what they KNOW. And here is the kicker, you can share with them new knowledge.

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So, now they know "better" and the responsibility can kick in intrinsically.

The best way to encourage intrinsic responsibility is by being a role model for them to follow. Lead the way and encourage their efforts, remembering that the moment you try to "drag" them along, they will resist and you will get tired out. Instead, leave the bread crumbs so the way forward is clear and motivating as possible.

Now I want to hear from you! Have you ever wished you could change someone? Will you consider this acceptance and encouragement approach over nagging or dragging them along?

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About the author Stephanie Wicker is a child behaviour expert, parenting educator, counsellor and speaker - who has successfully guided families through early childhood for over 15 years. Through her experience with private consultancy, as a preschool teacher and special needs therapist - she has worked across the many facets of early childhood behaviour. 

 

Stephanie's evidence-based programs are grounded in behaviour science and her passion for Relational Frame Theory (RFT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and developmental psychology all play a big role in her programs.

Stephanie’s experience covers early intensive behaviour intervention programs for children with special needs and for families newly diagnosed. She hosts live training events all over Australia, where she shares her practical solutions and language techniques, along with providing private, in-home therapy sessions for those seeking more personalised support. 

Through her company, Simply Kids she provides family resources such as digital books and educational activities, designed to keep behaviour simple. 

"By helping parents place emphasis on connection, empowerment and encouragement, I believe that all children have the ability to reach their full potential." - Stephanie Wicker

 Photo credit to www.kiindred.co

Photo credit to www.kiindred.co

 
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