The key to calming over excited children!
Sometimes kiddos can get a bit over excited and silly behaviour can lead to someone getting hurt or maybe breaking something valuable. For any parent out there feeling a bit overwhelmed by your over excited toddler or youngster, here is a quick tip for helping kids calm down.
The first thing is to remember that this is completely normal behaviour for their development. Their little brains are still growing their prefrontal lobe which means that regulating big emotions and physical energy is still quite tricky! That's why we spend so much time talking about it in here!
The next thing to remember is that our energy either calms or intensifies their energy. This means yelling or following them around is only going to escalate the situation for your youngster. In place of yelling, find a visual cue that your children can see and know "Ok, mama's had it!" Some parents raise their hand, some hold out a stop sign. Find "your cue" and use it when you want to shout. This will not only send a clear message but it will also begin to calm you as well and allow you to think of what to do next.
The best thing you can do to help THEM calm down is remain calm.
That isn't always easy though is it? When it's tough, send them to play outside for a few minutes and give yourself a break. This transition into a new environment will naturally stimulate different areas in their brain and they will begin to deescalate.
Structure their activities by adding some visual cues which help children begin the process of regulating their bodies. Timers are great for this. You can set a timer for five minutes and call them inside once it goes off. (only if they need it) You can use visual cues around the house as well. They're super handy for building routines.
Lastly, enjoy your kiddos. They're only small once and these silly behaviours will be gone soon enough, embrace the moments!
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What do you think? Will you consider using a visual cue when you wanna scream your head off?? Try it and see the difference in yourself and your kids.
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About the author Stephanie Wicker is a child behaviour expert, parenting educator, counsellor and speaker - who has successfully guided families through early childhood for over 15 years. Through her experience with private consultancy, as a preschool teacher and special needs therapist - she has worked across the many facets of early childhood behaviour.
Stephanie's evidence-based programs are grounded in behaviour science and her passion for Relational Frame Theory (RFT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and developmental psychology all play a big role in her programs.
Stephanie’s experience covers early intensive behaviour intervention programs for children with special needs and for families newly diagnosed. She hosts live training events all over Australia, where she shares her practical solutions and language techniques, along with providing private, in-home therapy sessions for those seeking more personalised support.
Through her company, Simply Kids she provides family resources such as digital books and educational activities, designed to keep behaviour simple.
"By helping parents place emphasis on connection, empowerment and encouragement, I believe that all children have the ability to reach their full potential." - Stephanie Wicker
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