Throughout these modules, we have covered so many practical strategies and amazing lessons around your child's emotional regulation and decision making. Now, I want to share with you a few ways that we can start creating positive habits around the information that we've already explored. There are four key things that I focus on when it comes to learning a new skill or practicing a new skill every day. Habits begin by the same things that we do over, and over, and over again every single day. That's what creates a habit. But more often than not, we rely on our motivation to dictate what we do each day. Rather than focusing on motivation, which like any other emotion is going to come and go, I want you to embrace these four things.
The first one is to make it obvious. If you have found a solution that you can't wait to try, I want you to write it down on a piece of paper and stick it on the fridge. Stick it on the mirror where you can see it every morning when you're brushing your teeth. Make it obvious for you, so it's easy for you to remember. The second thing, keep it simple. Make sure that you're not taking on more than you can chew at once. Right? We don't want to be taking on too much, because that means that the brain is going to start to feel a little bit overwhelmed, and it might start to give up. It might start to avoid it again. All of a sudden, you're coming up with all these reasons why you couldn't possibly do a very simple strategy. Keep it simple. Start small. If you are worried that spending 10 minutes of one-on-one time with each child is too much, focus on five minutes instead. It's okay to simplify things while you're still breaking old patterns and creating new, positive habits.
The third thing is to make sure that it feels good. Focus on things that you enjoy doing. Focus on things that you know are going to feel like, "Wow. I've really accomplished something just then. That felt great." Connecting with kids feels great. Boosting your relationship feels good. We crave that human to human connection, especially with our kids. Focus on things that you know are going to feel good, before branching out and doing things that you might be a little bit more uncomfortable with that require a higher demand on you.
Then, finally, we want to make sure that the experience is satisfying. A great way to create satisfying experiences is to share them with others, to create accountability. That's why this course actually comes with a private group, where you can log on anytime and share your recent successes. We try to keep it as fun, engaging, and as easy as possible for your family to be successful. So, take this formula, these four things, make it obvious, keep it simple, make sure it feels good, and create a satisfying experience by sharing your success with others. You do those four things, and you'll be creating amazing parenting habits in no time.