How to raise resilient kids for a calmer, happier home.
 
 

Learn how emotional coaching can boost your child’s confidence, compassion and cooperation.

"..The coaching process is easy. If you miss things you can catch up and Stephanie is so easy to open up to; it’s like speaking to your best friend that you’ve known for years..."

 
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Emotional Coaching helps children navigate their emotions and behaviour calmly and mindfully.

Emotions are powerful. At some point we all experience exactly how powerful our emotions can be over our decisions. Heightened emotions can be like a race car speeding down the highway. They can feel out of our control. For many of us, our emotions dictate our behaviour which can often lead to regret and guilt.

How many times have you lost your temper and then later felt bad about it?

How many times have you sent an angry text message and regretted it?

Understanding the affects our emotions have on our decisions and overall behaviour is an integral part of resiliency. It’s easy to be reactive. It’s easy to wait for life to happen to us and simply react to those difficult experiences. What takes work is living with intention. Actively creating the person that we want to be and the life that we want to have. But how do we teach this to children? When our emotions are so powerful that they take control of our decisions and lives how can we possibly teach children to manage their own big feelings?

If emotions are a race car then what we need is to be looking for the brakes. The first thing we learnt when driving a car is how to stop. Once we slow down we can steer properly.

For children they experience their race car emotions every day. As their brains are developing learning how to regulate will become easier. But it still takes work and requires a coach. Your child’s brain is wired to be unreasonable, over emotional and ego-centric. These developmental stages are clearly represented by their behaviour. Your little one’s tantrums, defiance, aggression and disobedience are all a side product of their emotional development.

As their emotional race car takes off down the highway they struggle to find the brakes making it impossible for them to navigate (make sound decisions).

This is where the importance of becoming your child’s emotional coach kicks in. Put simply, emotional coaching is a process where an adult guides their child through their emotional stages and provides support they need to navigate calmly and mindfully. There are three core areas of emotional coaching which can be broken down even further.

Regulating, relating and reasoning.

Emotional coaching must always begin with the adults ability to regulate. Because your child is emotionally underdeveloped it is your role to co-regulate their emotions with them. The key to regulation is understanding your child’s emotional intelligence. When we can see the stress that their brain is under during challenging behaviours it allows us to remain calm and focused.

The second key area of emotional coaching is relating. This is where the adult puts themselves in their child’s shoes and attempts to feel how they may be feeling in the moment. When we relate to someone else in a heightened emotional state it creates a bridge between us. What your child’s emotional brain needs more than anything is understanding and patience. By simply acknowledging how your child feels in the moment you can begin to relate to them.

“I can see that you’re upset.”

“I can tell that this is hard for you.”

The third and final category of emotional coaching is reasoning. Once you have coregulated and related to your child you are now in a position to navigate them forward. Reasoning is done through guiding questions that elicit intrinsic responses from your child. Use this time to explore potential solutions and compromises.

Emotional coaching is like teaching your child how to drive their emotional race car.

We begin by locating the brakes and the gas pedal.

Defining Emotions: How am I feeling right now? Do I like my feelings or decisions?

Then we work on steering.

Problem Solving: How do I want to feel? How can I get my needs met? What step can I take next?

Finally, we teach road signs and traffic laws.

Broader Understanding: How does my behaviour affect others? What can I change? What can make this easier for next time?

As you can see emotional coaching has many facets and has a powerful impact on family relationships. While it does require patience and consistency on the part of the parent, emotional coaching is the support all children need in order to learn and practice resiliency.

 
 
 

Group coaching for modern, mindful parents!

In my online coaching program, Becoming Your Child’s Emotional Coach, my mission is to support you through your journey of raising confident, heart centred humans. Using a holistic approach to behaviour and emotional development, I promise to deliver evidence based, sensible solutions for the busy, modern family. I’m here to empower you to navigate your children through life’s challenges calmly and mindfully.


 
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Join today and begin learning through our private member’s area and our community of like minded parents creating calmer, happier homes!

 
 
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How it all works!

Your purchase will grant you lifetime access to my teaching content plus live, coaching calls each month in our private client community. We deep dive into positive, evidence based behaviour solutions so simple anyone can see amazing changes in behaviour immediately.

  • Connect with like minded parents and carers sharing their own struggles and stories.

  • Break down why challenging behaviours kick in and what is happening behind the scenes allowing you to support your child calmly and mindfully.

  • Learn incredible, evidence-based strategies in order to create new positive parenting habits.

  • Practice habit making by incorporating obvious, easy and satisfying tactics into your responses.

  • Bring it all together and put sensible, simple techniques into action through emotionally coaching your child through a challenge.

Are you ready to make some changes in your home? Come join Becoming Your Child’s Emotional Coach and get started seeing improvement today!!

Bonus E-book Calm, Happy Families: An Introduction to CBT for Families

Behaviour Modules Include:

CALM, HAPPY KIDS module

Understanding your little one’s behaviour and emotional development

REASONING WITH THE UNREASONABLE module

Teaching youngsters early steps in reasoning

FROM AGGRESSION TO AFFECTION module

How to guide your child or student through aggressive behaviours

HOW TO TALK SO CHILDREN LISTEN module

How to be an effective coach with your child(ren)

RAISING RESILIENCE module

Defining your child’s need for risk and independence while supporting their growth mindset

REPLACING PUNISHMENT module

Why most punishment doesn’t work and what to do instead

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The Experience

By joining our membership coaching program you will receive an abundance of expert behaviour support each week. Our private member’s area provides online learning at your own pace through videos, downloads and family time printables. Live coaching calls run each month from our private Facebook group which we encourage you to join upon becoming a member. Meet like minded families on a similar journey to happier, calmer parenting. We are always expanding the experience for our members with live classes, expert interviews and frequent updates. See you on the inside!

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 Still not sure if this is right for you?

Watch my FREE, three part mini series and learn the importance of becoming your child or student’s emotional coach in under fifteen minutes.

 What Families are Saying

Stephanie has an incredible ability to deliver such powerful information in a way that is simple to understand and doesn’t leave you feeling overwhelmed. She has so much insight and shares it with such a passion. Thank you Stephanie!
— Jess Kaucz
Your explanation of the background behind those puzzling toddler behaviour make so much sense and so easy to remember that it helps me to keep my calm in the challenging situations.
— Hoa Nguyen
Stephanie Wicker is amazing!!!! Her passion and knowledge radiate as she shares such valuable information on how best to help children overcome difficulties in regards to their behavior.
— Bree Hansen
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Meet Stephanie

Simply Kids was created by behaviour specialist, Stephanie Wicker, as an avenue of support for parents, families and early childhood educators.  Our mission is to provide families with simple, sensible solutions to the challenges which may be interrupting their connection with their children, through home visits, parent coaching and practical online resources.

Challenging childhood behaviours like disobedience, defiance and aggression can trigger an emotional reaction in us as adults. When a person feels like they’re under attack, it leads to a defensive mindset which places a wedge between the adult and the child.

Our goal is to simplify why children do what they do and remove the wedge in the parent/child relationship during difficult behaviours. Learn more.


 

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