Disobedience, aggression and defiance all stem from a child’s emotional reaction to challenges.
Challenges may appear insignificant to an adult such as hearing the word “No”, waiting their turn or being told to do something they don’t want to do. These “insignificant” challenges can be a big deal to a young, developing brain.
My goal is to simplify why children do what they do and remove the wedge in the parent/child relationship during difficult behaviours.
In my upcoming group program, parents and educators will learn the five steps of emotional coaching: empowering adults everywhere to drop corporal punishment at home and in the classroom.
Emotional coaching is like any other form of coaching in the sense that it involves the three core steps of teaching. If you have spent time in a classroom you may be familiar with the three steps in every lesson plan. As a preschool teacher my days revolved around these three steps.
STEP 1: MODELLING
STEP 2: GUIDING
STEP 3: PRACTICING
The teacher or coach begins the lesson by modelling the activity. Next, they include the classroom or student in the activity working as a team. Finally, they allow the child(ren) to practice on their own with feedback and further instructions.
These are the three core steps I teach families and educators how to use in discipline (discipline = teaching). The additional two steps in emotional coaching are:
1. Defining emotion and motivation behind child's actions.
We recognise that all behaviour is communication and once we follow the emotion we can find the underlying message.
Some quick examples are:
Defiance = child needs to feel relevant
Attention seeking = child needs to feel validated
Aggression = child needs ways to cope with social challenges
2. Choosing the best life skill to focus on in the moment.
"What does my child need from me? How do I support them fully in the moment?"
If you are excited to learn how to boost your youngsters (or classrooms) resilience, confidence, listening, coping, affection, interactions (and more!) which results in calmer, happier kiddos, replacing aggression, defiance, disobedience and tantrums without relying on corporal punishment, bribes and threats this is the program for you!
Children don’t need to feel shame in order to learn how to make better decisions. They need an emotional coach and ample opportunity to self correct and practice resilient life skills.
Coaching Topics Include:
CALM, HAPPY KIDS
Understanding your little one’s behaviour and emotional development
REASONING WITH THE UNREASONABLE
Teaching youngsters early steps in reasoning
FROM AGGRESSION TO AFFECTION
How to guide your child or student through aggressive behaviours
HOW TO TALK SO CHILDREN LISTEN
How to be an effective coach with your child(ren)
Defining your child’s need for risk and independence while supporting their growth mindset
REPLACING PUNISHMENT WITH EMOTIONAL COACHING
Why most punishment doesn’t work and what to do instead
Learn how to be your child’s emotional coach! Sign up to receive 20% OFF our upcoming online coaching program.
This group program is uniquely designed with the member’s experience in mind. Each member will have access to the training material for the lifetime of the program. Put simply, pay once and experience the program as many times as you want. I designed it this way for those of us who may need a second (or third!) visit. The content in this group program is simple but not always easy. Making life long changes takes time and we are here for you every step of the way. Each module has an online component for learning at your own pace while incorporating a live, online coaching event for those seeking group accountability and individualised support. This program includes a thirty day money back guarantee because we believe in the amazing benefits of mindfulness and in you.
Still not sure if this is right for you?
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What Families are Saying
Simply Kids was created by behaviour specialist, Stephanie Wicker, as an avenue of support for parents, families and early childhood educators. Our mission is to provide families with simple, sensible solutions to the challenges which may be interrupting their connection with their children, through home visits, parent coaching and practical online resources.
Challenging childhood behaviours like disobedience, defiance and aggression can trigger an emotional reaction in us as adults. When a person feels like they’re under attack, it leads to a defensive mindset which places a wedge between the adult and the child.
Our goal is to simplify why children do what they do and remove the wedge in the parent/child relationship during difficult behaviours. Learn more.